motherhood

In which love is embodied

Motherhood… often abstract… the inner workings of the heart…

but is really found in

the hands that brush hair off the forehead, wipe tears from cheeks, or help little hands reach beyond their grasp,

the arms that hold, hug, reach, carry,

the womb that grows, feeds, protects, stretches beyond what we believe possible (like love),

the feet that pace through endless nights, run to keep up with the toddler,

the lap where stories are told, wrongs are remedied,

the ears that listen for a baby’s cry, or hear a child’s rambling stories,

the eyes that watch baby’s first step, blink back tears of sorrow or joy,

the lips that kiss, and shush, and sing,

these are all the little ways

in which love is embodied.

© 2012 Julie Kieras

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Rhythm of Home: Bedtime routines

One rhythm in our household we tried to establish early and stick to is our bedtime routine for our son. It’s nothing earth-shattering, but going through these simple routines helps him get ready for bed.

Side benefit: when people babysit, he tells them what comes next (although he certainly tries to drag things out by asking to “play a few minutes?” and “read ‘nother book!”).

He calls all bedtime “nappy time,” even though the nap time routine is generally much simpler and shorter.

First, a bath – “tubby time!” He gets about fifteen minutes to play in the tub with his toys, bath books, and get soaped up and cleaned. He’s already learning to use the washie to clean his arms and belly and face! And we’ve finally mastered “lean back” so we can rinse his hair off with cups of water. If he gets water in his eyes, we taught him to “blink, blink, blink” which is more effective than rubbing and getting soap in his eyes. (We learned that at swim lessons last year!).

Tubby time is often followed by a run around the upstairs bedrooms and hallway with a hooded towel floating behind him – he really likes this part! Then we corral him and get him to brush his teeth. ”Make circles! Stick out your tongue! Rinse!” We try to teach the finer points of dental hygiene early! And believe me, he lets us know if we forgot to put “soap” on his brush!

Diaper and pajamas on! Then the fun begins – oh there are so many ways our little guy tries to distract us. But wehold firm (we have a soft spot for cuteness though!). We keep things calm and get him into the rocking chair for book time.

He’ll let us read books as long as possible, but generally we read about 3-5 board books a night. His favorites include: Mike Mulligan and His Steam Shovel, anything from the BabyLit series, Katy and the Big SnowAll About Turtles, and usually his latest library books. Usually I read, but sometimes if I have his laundry or diapers to put away, Daddy does the honors while Mommy straightens up (I hate leaving him in a disheveled room for the night!).

Then it’s time for “Rock an’ Sing” – generally done by Mommy. He now has learned to lay quietly and usually “tries” to sleep as pictured here with his hands under his cheek. We turn on the Moosie Light (by Kinderglo), turn off the lights, and wait for the “stars come out” (our glow in the dark ceiling stickers). Then I sing. He loves being sung to – “Jesus Loves Me,” “Rock-A-Bye Baby,” “Lullaby and Goodnight,” “Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God,” “Isn’t He Wonderful,” “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star.” Occasionally an oddball song will get thrown in at his request – like ”London Bridges” or “I Like to Eat Apples and Bananas”!

He usually doesn’t fall asleep in my arms anymore, so I put him in his crib with his many animal friends. Meet (left to right): Turtle, Turtle Pillow, Snoodle, Rabbit (Thumper), Froggie, Mickey, Sleepie Sheep…and sometimes more!

I give him his Lion Lovey – a little worse for the wear – and two sherpa/flannel wipes he also uses as lovies, and tuck him in. Recently, a new part of the routine got added, leftover from the weeks of soothing post-binky-weaning: He calls it “Sing in the Crib” where he lays down, and I rub his back and sing one or two more songs while he lays there. This has worked really well to get him to go to sleep quietly. Then I put on his lullaby music and say goodnight.

It might sound like a long routine, but unless bathtime or booktime goes longer than usual, it’s about thirty minutes; if we get home late from somewhere we just shorten everything up! And that’s the rhythm of our house at bedtime!

What’s your bedtime routine for your children? I’m especially curious to hear routines for kids of different ages! Either blog about it and link up in a comment, or tell me in your comment!

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My breastfeeding hero is…

Guess what? It’s not the front cover of TIME magazine. This may shock and anger some of you but read on to understand why:

It’s not about the cover mom’s choice to breastfeed longer than most. Or to breastfeed without a nursing cover. Or be photographed while breastfeeding. It’s not about her, really. It’s about the poor perception of breastfeeding this photo creates.

I don’t believe this photo represents the true concept and reasons for breastfeeding.

I don’t believe it represents how I personally feel as a breastfeeding mama.

I don’t believe it supports moms who breastfeed (no matter how long).

I don’t believe it creates cultural acceptance of breastfeeding in our US culture that sexualizes women’s body parts and cannot see beyond that to the natural, biological purpose of breastfeeding.

I don’t believe it accurately captures how the majority of most women breastfeed (guess what, it’s not with a bold stare and a bared chest!).

I don’t believe it portrays breastfeeding as a natural and normal way to nurture and feed your baby.

In a culture that fails breastfeeding mothers, creating negative and highly sensationalized publicity around breastfeeding will not get you into my Hall of Fame. Sorry.

So… who IS my breastfeeding hero?

…the mom who tries anything to reduce the pain of breastfeeding so she can continue.

…the mom who attempts, even if she fails.

…the mom who suceeds no matter for how long.

…the mom who can’t or isn’t interested in breastfeeding but doesn’t tear down the idea for other people who are.

…the mom who blogs or talks about her breastfeeding experiences with other moms to gain and give support and information.

…the anyone who doesn’t whisper, giggle, blush, look askance at a mother breastfeeding in public (or try to arrest them for public exposure).

…the companies that provide special rooms for nursing moms to pump or feed their child (especially if they are labeled with the global icon for breastfeeding, NOT with a bottle! LOL!).

…the fashion designers who are starting to understand moms would like functional AND fashionable nursingwear for the 6 weeks, 6 months or longer they breastfeed!

…the lactation consultants, nurses, doctors, and breastfeeding specialist who stay well-educated on the topic and dispel common breastfeeding myths.

…the dads, brothers, friends who support moms who breastfeed (whether by keeping other children occupied while she nurses, telling her she’s doing a great job, giving hugs, doing a few chores since breastfeeding takes quantities of time, giving mom some extra time to sleep, making sure she is well-nourished… there are so many ways to support a breastfeeding mama!).

My breastfeeding hero, in fact, just might be YOU! It’s all of us when we come together to positively and purposefully support breastfeeding women!

Who is your breastfeeding hero? Comment or write a post and link up here:

 

This hop is hosted by Erin of The Slacker Mom and co-hosted by Marah of Happiness Redefined and Lori from The Gnome’s Mom.

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Mother’s Day Gift Guide: The Vintage Pearl Jewelry ~ $100 Gift Card Giveaway *CLOSED

Shhh. Don’t tell… I got myself a Mother’s Day gift early!

This Mother’s Day I’ll be wearing some lovely handstamped and crafted silver jewelry from The Vintage Pearl.

These simple and unique handcrafted pieces are the perfectly thoughtful gift to give any mom. Customize bracelets, charms, rings with initials, letters, or a special thought. Add pearls and birthstones to personalize even further!

Since I won a gift certificate last year, I got myself a square initials on a chain necklace with a letter for my son (I’ll add another charm once our second son is born and we figure out what to name him!).

And I updated my earring selection with antique teardrop silver earrings (they have a great textured look!) and slender silver and mother-of-pearl earrings!

Each piece at The Vintage Pearl is handcrafted from start to finish. Even the stamping is individually done by hand, not machine, so every piece has a slightly different look. Choose from designs ranging from simple to unique to vintage. Then select from several font choices (their online store will recommend the best look for the style you’re purchasing, but you can still pick your own).

Not only do they carry all the customizeable pieces for women, The Vintage Pearl also has a selection for men (love the cufflinks!) and keepsake items like silver baby spoons and other gifts!

I’ve always been a fan of silver jewelry, and of handmade jewelry, so The Vintage Pearl is the perfect marraige of the two! The quality of craftsmanship is good. The pieces are delicately made and just as pretty as their photographs on online! And the prices were very reasonable, in my opinion.

BUY IT: You’ll find a nice range of designs at The Vintage Pearl - but if you’re ordering for Mother’s Day, you’ll need to decide fast, because they need your order by April 24th to get it shipped to you on time!

WIN IT: One lucky reader will receive a $100 Gift Certificate to The Vintage Pearl – you will have SO much fun shopping! Enter in the Rafflecopter form below!
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